"He loves you."
I gave a nod in reply.
"He's just... scared."
I scoffed, "And that's supposed  to make me feel better?"
He leaned forward with that familiar concerned look on his face.
"I know you're not feeling it but he really loves you."
"That's the point, I'm not feeling it."
He shifted uncomfortably. I waited.
"Not feeling it doesn't mean it's not there."
"Tell me, how does not feeling it make it there?"
A long silence ensued. Finally, I stood up and prepared myself to leave.
"Love takes courage and I don't regret fighting for it; I regret fighting for a coward- useless and insulting."

#001 05.30.2014 



There's never a straight path in our pursuit of a goal. Pursuing one is like venturing a maze that holds adventures and uncertainties alike. As you walk through, as you make turn upon each turn, you'd meet dead ends. Would you stop and let darkness eat you or turn your heels and change course?

Hitting dead ends is like facing rejections. It's disheartening, isn't it? But it's more like a detour than an eternal road block. Find another path to take, another direction to turn, a different route to navigate until you find your way.

Rejection has its many facets. It sprouts in all of life's aspects - love, career, yada yada. It's a huge self-esteem buster. We fear getting rejected because, dang, it hurts! It can make us doubt ourselves and what we're capable of. But we must shrug it off and resume the fight, right? It's never the rejections that put a stop to our goals, we do. How so? We put an end to our goals when we stop on our tracks and refuse to walk forth.  Rejections, although perceived negatively by default, if taken in a different light, are means to redirect us somewhere else.

Remind yourself that there's nothing universal. Not fitting to a certain standard, company or situation does not make you any lesser. You just have to find your perfect place. And you won't be able to see where you'd fit just right if you give up now.

Well, you can stop right there and blame rejections all you want but never will it move you anywhere. You'll be stuck right there and nothing's gonna get better. You have to move forward and see past the rejection. Just say, "One option down, more to go." No one's saying it's going to be easy but you gotta keep walking. It might take long but you'll get there.



I've been hearing this line from a few friends lately and I thought maybe it's time I post something about this matter. Mind you, this is one hackneyed topic. Google keywords and you’ll get advice here and there. Let me just share some tips from my observation and, well, my experience. Ahem!

Leave all assumptions to math and all meanings in the dictionary.
In the world of moving on, all your assumptions and the meanings you try to insist are deal breakers. It will only keep your hopes up.

Set the drama aside.
You got hurt, of course, it's okay to cry. But crying weeks and weeks after what's over and done is too much. Don't go overboard, honey. Most of the pain you feel at this point is already self-inflicted… self-pity, regret, longing. Stop. You’re sinking nobody’s ship but yours.



I always admire people who never give up. Those who, despite a whirlwind of unfortunate events, still choose to go for whatever they're aiming for. Lucky for some, they could get what they want and be where they want to be in life without lifting a finger. But for others, for most of us, getting there would have to mean sweat and blood. You can't just blame the entire universe for being born so unfortunate, nor curse life for being so unfair. That's how it is. We don't get to choose how we're born, but see, we get to choose and will for whatever we want in our life. I'm not a believer of destiny. I believe more in the power of our own choice.

Our circumstances don't define who we are and where we're heading. It is our choice to move forward despite challenges that makes a whole lot of difference. Sure it isn't easy. I've cried buckets for all that grave feeling that's never easy to win over. We all do, right? But hey, one day you'll have to stop crying and start again. If you really want something so bad, you couldn't just let it slip away without giving a good fight. Just stand up again and push yourself further. Eventually, it will pay off.

Remember, failure is temporary, giving up is eternal.